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Tuesday, October 6, 2009

Wellness Assigment #3

Bullying occurs frequently during a regular school day. Without giving out personal information and/or names...please describe different types of bullying you see on a day to day basis. Understand that you yourself may be guilty of even some subtle degrees of bullying.

158 comments:

Anonymous said...

GIRLS are most likely the worst bullies i have ever met. Every girl is a bully. If you are talking about someone behind their back (everyone has done it), pushing, calling people names, or even giving nasty looks. It is rediculous but it is the world we have all been brought up in. I am not saying it is right, but it is going to take a lot to change.

-amanda fogg

nortonwellness said...

Amanda, that's a great point!! What do you think we(you)can do to help foster a change??

becca said...

I agree that girls are the worst bullies. They aren't as upfront about it as some of the guys poking fun at other people may be, but they are definitely worse. It's going to be a very slow change but it can start by losing the cattiness. It may sound cliche but everyone is different and we ALL need to accept it.

Jessica H. said...

I agree with both of these comments. Girls can be so cruel sometimes and they don't even care. Whether it's talking about someone, or messing with someone's belongings ; it always happens. In order for girls to lose the stereotype that we're all "mean" we're going to have to prove to people that we don't all love drama. We can be nice to everyone regardless of what you hear about them. Also, I see a lot of people who think that they're better than others because they're in a higher grade or something, so they look at people in a wrong way, or judge people instantly. Although it's not always obvious, it can still be considered bullying. I think that showing acts of kindness randomly can stop bullying in a huge way because people will see that you're genuinely nice and not judge you so fast.(not everyone, though, some people just have bad attitudes)

nortonwellness said...

Ladies, I love the insight. I think if we stepped back and really took a look at the "issues" that people get upset or ticked off about we'd see that they are all very trivial. I'm glad you have put such great thought into your responses. Also, thanks for the help with the Comcast bags!

Anonymous said...

Bullying comes in so many different forms that it's difficult to lost them all. forms of bullying can be as simple as knocking over someones books to as extreme as a full blown fight. Things like that happen everyday. I've been in the highschool for a month and there have been plenty of bullying incidents that I have seen. It happens everyday but all it takes is someone to step up and make a difference.

- Danny Rafuse

nortonwellness said...

Dan,
I agree that things like this happen everyday. Why do you think that people have just allowed it to become a "cultural norm"? I'd love to hear some of your thoughts, thanks!

Anonymous said...

I agree with the others that girls are worse bullies than boys are. I think that this is because they generally aren't up front about it. Instead of confronting someone about something girls usually just badmouth them to other people. It happens so many times everyday especially in high school. Even if it's just one little comment, it can still be hurtful and it's still considered bullying.

Jess said...

I agree that girls are the worst bullies. At one point or another, every girl has talked about one of their friends behind their back, judged someone they didn't know by what they were wearing or who they were hanging out with, and just by things they have heard. Some may not realize it at the time, but some of the things that are said can be really hurtful to someone else, even if it is just a joke. It happens every day, everyone does it at one point or another however it really needs to change.
-Jess Flannery

Anonymous said...

Everyone is a bully in one form of another. Everyone talks behind peoples back, makes fun of people, fighting, and harassing. These are all types of bullying. I will admit it that I have done it, my best friends have done it, the random kids in the hallway have done it, the quiet girl who you think is so sweet has done it, even some teachers have done it. Bullying is a severe problem that i personally think will never be fixed because of how judgmental America is and how everyone is trying to look as beautiful as all the ads say you are.

-Keegan Schleicher

Anonymous said...

Bullying in schools is unfortunately very very common. The worst aspect of this is usually the reason for the bullying. With girls, its often about boys and with boys it can be about girls or its the whole alpha male thing. The sad part is that in most cases the "bully" does not really understand to what extent they are hurting their "victim". It is hard to control your anger or emotions but people really should try to think about what they're doing and how it will affect the other person, even if it is out of revenge sometimes it is easier and more effective to just talk to the person, even if you do not like them there are other ways to solve things rather than hurting them, physically or emotionally.


Jessica W.

Jon Bisanti said...

Generally people look at bullying as the everyday nonsense and see past as something insignificant. However, to those being bullied bullying actually hurts them. Count out how many times a day the cool kid calls the loser a homo. Homosexuality is the big one as there seems no bigger insult to an insecure teenager than to question his sexuality in front of other people; and, of course, bears no more suitable comeback than that of violence. Beyond this lies appearances, making fun of someone for their weight or how they look. Bullying has gone on forever, the goals that people set out for "stopping bullying" will never succeed because people believe that bullying is a part of being better than other people

Unknown said...

Bullying is really unfortunate. It happens on a daily basis. The slightest nasty look by another girl, as Amanda first mentioned, is a form of bullying. Or, teasing in the form of sarcasism can be hurtful to someone even when the victimizer did not mean to cause any hurt. Bullying has a variety of degrees, but no matter how bad, it is crushing another person's character, confidence, their being. It is going to be really hard to stop the nonsense, but if you tried to be nice to just one person then maybe (as we learned from Rachel Scott Joy) there just might be a chain reaction of kindness.

ryan ellis said...

i think bullying is not right but yes i admite i do bully people but i don't think its right but i tryed to stop bullying people but i do not feel like myself when i don't.

Anonymous said...

bullying is a thing i see every day at school or out of school. people make fun of others for not being as smart, not having as much friends, not as athletic and alot of other things. i have been a victim of bullying and i also bullied people too. i dont think people will stop bullying others because it makes them feel good in front of there friends or makes them feel like they did a great thing.


steve tessier

Tim W said...

Bullying I see on a day to day basis includes people intentionally walking into others in the halls. I see that all the time. People call others names all the time, whether they are serious or not it still could hurt someone's feelings especially if it happens a lot. I also notice people telling someone not to sit at their table at lunch. That is definitely bullying and would hurt you quite a bit. I hear people talking about certain kids. They say bad things about them behind their backs that they would never want that kid to hear. All of this is not something that should take place because all these things people do to bully someone else they would never want it to happen to themselves.

Anonymous said...

i feel that every person in the world has bullied someone in their lives at one point or another, and as much as i would like to say ive never bullied i cant. i cant really recall any of the incidents that i have bullied someone but ik for a fact i have either talked about someone behind their back or any of the other many forms of bullying, but i also know that i try hard to be a nice person to everyone no matter what and ive definitely noticed a difference. i just hope more people can change their ways.

Anonymous said...

i feel that every person in the world has bullied someone in their lives at one point or another, and as much as i would like to say ive never bullied i cant. i cant really recall any of the incidents that i have bullied someone but ik for a fact i have either talked about someone behind their back or any of the other many forms of bullying, but i also know that i try hard to be a nice person to everyone no matter what and ive definitely noticed a difference. i just hope more people can change their ways.

christian breau

Anonymous said...

i feel that every person in the world has bullied someone in their lives at one point or another, and as much as i would like to say ive never bullied i cant. i cant really recall any of the incidents that i have bullied someone but ik for a fact i have either talked about someone behind their back or any of the other many forms of bullying, but i also know that i try hard to be a nice person to everyone no matter what and ive definitely noticed a difference. i just hope more people can change their ways.

christian breau

Anonymous said...

When I attended my 10th class year reunion a woman walked up to me, a woman I did not recognize. She said to me "you saved my life." And I asked her who she was and I was ashamed to say her name did not ring a bell. She told me one day she was eating in the cafeteria alone and I sat down next to her and asked her if she was okay and we struck up a conversation. She told me she was planning on killing herself later that day and she changed her mind after I sat with her at lunch. Because of what I said to her made the difference between living and dying. Never underestimate the difference you can make in someone else's life, even when you don't think it means a thing!
--a parent of one of your classmates who does not want to make them "die of embarassment" by writing her name ;)

Anonymous said...

I would love the students to take the word "retard" out of their vocabulary. Having a cousin that had cerebral palsy growing up it instilled in me what a gift it was to have such a loving member in our family. When I hear that word it brings back the hateful and hurtful things he had to go through. He passed away a year ago leaving the gift for us to fight. Take the pledge- be the change
www.r-word.org

Kim

nortonwellness said...

Anonymous mom and Kim...thanks so much for sharing your personal opinions and thoughts. It's very helpful to get first hand accounts of the types of bullying you both endured. I think the students at NHS are doing and outstanding job at making an effort to make better choices and be better people. Reading your stories helps motivate them to push towards that goal.

MV

Anonymous said...

Bullies are everywhere in our school. I think that you are a bully if you laugh at someone or make a joke about them behind there back. Little things like that are still acts of bullying.I think that everyone is guilty of bullying in there life.I have even done this. The racial jokes in our school are bad. People calling kids jews because they wont give you money is one of the worst examples. I think it is rediculous to make fun of someone if they go to temple and practice the jewish religion. Fat jokes are also used a bit to much in our school. Its not funny to make fun of someone because of their body weight.All these things are acts of bullying in our school.

Anonymous said...

forgot to sign my name
Nick Mobilia above
D Class ^^^^^

nortonwellness said...

Nick, GREAT point about the lunch money issue. I hear that often in the lunch room as well. It's too accepted as a cultural norm, how do we change it?

MV

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Anonymous said...

I'm not going to leave my name it doesn't matter but what I have to say does. I've been bullied alot. It makes you feel like you don't exist. The worst part is when the people you think are your friends start bullying you too just to "go along" with everyone. It makes it hard to trust people and you can't tell the good from the bad. A couple years ago I saw one of the students laying on the basketball court and he wasn't moving. No one was helping him out and as I got closer I noticed it was one of the kids who had bullied me for years. I went over to help him even though part of me didn't want to. I did it because he needed help and it was wrong that no one else was doing a thing. I stayed with him while everyone else was gathered around saying really horrible things. I stayed with him while the nurse helped, I stayed with him until they took him away. After that day he became my friend. I don't know who will read this and I don't know if it will make a difference, but if anyone reading this thinks that bullying doesn't affect everyone they need to walk in my shoes. You never know when you reach out to someone how it might change things and make a difference.
sickofthebullying

nortonwellness said...

Sickofthebullying,

Thanks for those comments. Many of my students will read your blog post. As I've told my students, our society has allowed bullying to be part of our cultural norm...and it needs to cease. Trust me when I tell you that your story will help. Even if it helps only one student, that's one student closer.

Anonymous said...

Has anyone else observed that students seem more passionate about assignment 2 than 3 when it came to the responses? (based on number of responses) Does that mean the students feel destructive behavior in the form of alcohol and drugs is more important than destructive behavior in the form of bullying?

Anonymous said...

I think girls are the biggest bullies in school. They can be so judgemental. Everyone has talked about someone behind their back,made fun of someone by what they wear or who their friends are, and have given people dirty looks. I think it should change by people just accepting everyones different and by people stoping being so judgemental and they should have their own opinions rather than what everyone else thinks.
-tori bravetti

Anonymous said...

In most situations i would say that everyone is guilty of some form of bullying. Girls do more verbal bullying behind backs of others where as guys do more physical bullying. I've seen bullying in different forms for all kinds of reasons, whether it be for knowledge, athleticism, looks, or quality of life. Overall generally i see a bully making fun of someone to make themselves look and feel better. Everyone can't be the same.

-Katie Rogers

Anonymous said...

Everyone is a bully whether they believe it or not. Everyone has talked about someone behind their, just because the person may not here it does not mean its not bullying. If people would just mind their own business and not worry about being so stereotypical i think life would be so much easier. Ill admit to it "yes i have bullied several people" even if its just people watching at the mall and looking at some of the crazy things people wear, little do you know thats bullying. In many cases, people dont realize they are bullying, because they get so upset and thats when it all comes out, but sometimes people need to think before they act because some things can be very offensive to others, and whether you believe it or not, there is karma.

-suzanne k
wellness b

Anonymous said...

I love my sister. I would never view how I treated her as bullying, and neither would my mom or dad. But it was.
I used to bully her because she was smaller than me, because I thought she was prettier than me, because I had poor self- esteem. I admit that I was and still can be a bully.
I think half the battle of fighting bullies is recognizing that there are more than just bullies in school. They exist in your own families- and they cut you deeper than any catty student may cut you.
The other part is just about being sensitive. It's not about being "politically correct". It's about seeing past what someone says and realizing what they mean. It's about noticing the otherwise unnoticed people in school.
It's hard to do, it's uncomfortable and it requires a little self-reflection.
It's important to note: not EVERYONE is a bully- it's not just girls- it's not just boys- it shouldn't be limited to school or home settings because it doesn't go away when you leave high school. It goes on in work, in nursing homes, in hospitals, wherever there are people abusing power or being abused by others whose power feels threatened.
The only way to to stop it is to a. recognize it and b. confront it. Even if that means confronting yourself, or apologizing to your sister after a decade. I love you. I am sorry for ever hurting your feelings or making you feel taken advantage of.

timlewis said...

Every day bullying occurs. I see and hear it happen a lot in and out of school. I have bullied people and I have been bullied by others. This shouldnt take place any where because people who bully others wouldnt like it if they were the ones getting bullied.

nortonwellness said...

"Has anyone else observed that students seem more passionate about assignment 2 than 3 when it came to the responses? (based on number of responses) Does that mean the students feel destructive behavior in the form of alcohol and drugs is more important than destructive behavior in the form of bullying?"

No...it's just the most recent assignment and some kids have yet to have the class lesson. In fact, based on the number of current results, it's garnered the most attention.

Anonymous said...

Just because "everyone does it" does that mean it has to be so easily accepted? Never underestimate the power you have to change a situation. Look up Kent State and read about what happened when a group of students not much older than yourselves got so upset with losing their friends in the Vietnam war they took it upon themselves to stop it. Look at bullying from a different perspective.

Anonymous said...

Bullying is something that occurs everyday. A lot of times the kids bullying don't know they are the bullies. What bothers me the most is when kids bully kids who can't help themselves. If a kid has a learning dissibility or social struggles kids will pick on them and make them feel bad about themselves. These kids can't help their problems and being picked on all the time makes matters worse. Bullying is not a good thing.
Conor Regan

Anonymous said...

Everyone is a bully. No one is perfect and I think everyone has a comment about another. Guys and girls physically bully, name call, emotionally bully, and girls give dirty looks to anyone they think isn't "popular" or "cool". Anyone who is "different" then the average guy or average girl will be bullied. Many girls are jealous of others so they will talk about them or give them dirty look. Guys aren't like that, they will just make fun of you. I don't think any of this will change. Most teenagers these days are just too immature to grow up. I think if you are a bully and don't like someone, why bother with them? If I didn't like someone I wouldn't waste my time bullying them.

Jenna Nippert

nortonwellness said...

Jenna,

Interesting comments. Let me first say that I appreciate your candidness on the topic. I know you cited immaturity as a reason that teens bully. I would agree to a point with that. However, there are lots of adults who are guilty of it too. I like your idea of just staying away from someone that you "don't like" as opposed to bullying, but is there more we can do as a student body, as teachers or as a society to help this issue? I'd be interested in your thoughts on this.

MV

Anonymous said...

As a student, I witness bullying every single day. I see people name calling all the time, sometimes it is joking but there is a line that these jokes can cross. Also, physical bullying is also present in our school with threats to "beat people up" and it is always the same suspects. They try to act as if they are tough stuff and think they can fight away their problems, grow up. Also, I see this particularly in girls with nonverbal bullying. they give eachother dirty looks, talk behind their backs, and plan with their friends on how to be a complete jerk to that one person they hate. Im sick of seeing people getting picked on that are good kids that are socially inept, it's unfair. I do what I can to stick up to bullies but I know I can do better. I am also a suspect of bullying, in middle school I bullied to a degree. It's highschool now and it's time to grow up. This highschool can change its culture with the help of the people that care about it.

-Colin Ahern

Anonymous said...

Bullying happens everyday with a lot of people even if they don't think they are being bullies. Like many other people said, just talking about someone's back is bullying. Also, people get pushed around in the hallways everyday. People ignoring others and purposely putting them down is bullying and can be avoided if you just think of how you're actually making that person feel.

-Kelsey
Class: A

Anonymous said...

Everyone has the potential to be a bully, because face it we're not always nice ALL the time. I really don't believe that anyone should be tagging specific people as bullies. Because all types of people are bullies..girls, boys, football players, golf players, people in band, we are all guilty of it. We tend to do it without noticing. I believe that bullying is any action that makes someone feel a negative emotion and its a fact we can't always make everyone happy. So ultimately we are all bullies, whether we mean to be or not. I see it everyday, and I know everybody else does too.

-Shannon Seward

Anonymous said...

I think that all types of bullying happen in our school. Even if its joking around with a friend it still is concidered bullying. up until yesterday i didnt concider it to be but after really thinking about it i have to agree that it is. Not a day goes by that i dont hear some form of this. I think out of all the types of bullying this is the type that doesnt hurt people as badly and the most common.

Anonymous said...

I think that the type of bullying that happens the most in our school is the joking around with your friend type. In between every class at least once i will hear some name calling or pushing. Usually it is two friends kidding around but that is still bullying. Every school has some form of bullying and im glad that our school doesnt have a more serious type of bullying.
-james Stone

Anonymous said...

the word bullying is often misinterpreted by most as a bulky kid taking a scrowny kids lunch money but it isnt always that its more frequently verdbal or cyber (technology). these are easier for kids and adults to do and most likely not noticed by other ppl. bullying is a bad characteristic that everyone does idc who you re youve done it. i have done it and eventhough id like to say i have never done it i cant but i also try hard not to and i feel everyone else should and it would make this world a better place.christian breau

Anonymous said...

On a given day at Norton High School I see people pushing one anther, people talk about other kids behind their backs. I also see that kids mess around with other kids belongings and make fun of others all day, no matter what you say you are doing that is considered bullying. We need to stop the bullying and get kids wanting to come to school instead od staying home because they are afriad to come to school in fear of being bullied. Its goin to take a while before this will start to show any improvements but I believe as a school we can do it.
Steve Harris

Anonymous said...

Hear's an idea- how about an anti bullying day? (hear me out before you roll those eyes :) Everyone says that everyone bullies right? Well pick one day everyone has to make a conscience effort to not bully, which means instead of a reactionary action, everyone (including me) has to think twice before they react to a person or situation? Then everyone tells how they made out. Maybe it would get us all thinking about how we act towards each other?
Kim Ryan

Nigel Allard said...

Bullying happens everday without most people even noticing. People bully one another by making fun of each other or calling each other names. This is a form of bullying whether the person hears it or not. This is a form of bullying I see almost everyday. Since, bullying is apart of everday life it will take a huge effort to fully get rid of it.

Mpotvin said...

Everyone has been a bully at least once in their lives, I honestly have too. The type of bullying I usually see almost every day comes from groups of girls. Girls can find every little flaw about someone they don't like then embarrass them about it. Girls tend to bully other people while they are in their groups of friends where they feel more powerful over the other girl. When groups of people come together or gain up on someone else is one of the worst types of bullying. I honestly think that bullying is going to be very hard to stop because of the immaturity and the types of minds of high schoolers. But if everyone comes together and tries to help change it, whether its talking to someone who looks upset or sitting by themselves or simply a hello to someone you rarely talk to. Just like Rachel Scott said, all we need is to start a chain reaction.

Anonymous said...

Verbal bullying is the most prominent type of bullying in our school. You can't go on day without at least witnessing it once in the hallways. Both girls and boys are guilty of talking badly about someone behind their back. Calling names, teasing, and instigating an arguement can all be considered bullying. Teens in our school are usually more likely to use non-confrontational bullying. They would rather make fun of someone behind their back than bully them face to face. This can cause more problems, especially between groups of friends, when what was said gets back to the victim. Sometimes, knowing that someone was cruel enough to say something mean when they aren't even near you can hurt more than being made fun of to your face.
-Carolyn Hathaway

Anonymous said...

Bullying is a problem that runs rampant in every school in every district in every town of every state. People bully others without even realizing that they're doing it at the time. The types of bullying that I most commonly see are pointing out people's past mistakes in a derogatory manner. I for one am a large offender of that. Bullying is a problem that is not addressed often enough in our school system.

Leo Larson

Anonymous said...

I think a lot of us are guilty of bullying. Sometimes its unintentional. It can vary from name calling or just pushing some one around. We've all encountered it many times in our life.
-Matt Layton

Anonymous said...

I agree that girls are bullies for many more reasons then guys but I don't think that means that they are worse. I'm not trying to defend girls in any way! but I look at it as girls gossip a lot which is a form of bullying, as well as give nasty looks walking by someone in the hallway bumping into them "on accident" but I feel that guys are just as bad, they just show it in a different way. For some reason they like to physically "dominate" someone else by punching them to the ground and to make a mark on their face. They also gossip a lot as well about whos stronger over who or even just walking up to someone and asking if they want to fight. I think it is a very hard part of life to break away from but I do feel that there is a way to do it, but the way to do it is unknown.
-Kajsa T

Kayla said...

There are so many types of bullying are out there. Cyberbullying is the one that I see the least of. Verbal bullying is the most often used, in my opinion. I see it everyday and I don't know how to stop it without getting myself verbally bullied. I see it when teachers point out students who don't do there homework and students point out other students for mistakes they've made, even little ones. I've also seen at lunch girls talking about other girls behind their backs. That's the worst because what they say can be really mean but like I said "I don't know how to fix it without getting myself bullied". The major bullies and even minor bullies should here stories of the bully victims of our school so that the bullies will truely understand how words can hurt just as much if not more than say a fist. Words do hurt.

Kayla Murphy

Anonymous said...

I agree that girls are bullies, there are different type of bullying though between boys and girls. Boys are more violent when it comes to that and girls are more verble when it comes to it like gossip. Everyone does it but some people do not realize what they say can hurt other people or counts a bullying someone.
-Stefanie W.

Kaiderine Synns said...

It's not rare to see bullying on a day to day basis. Whether it be name calling, shoving around, or whatever. It is always there. Even when YOU think it's a joke, the target may not. Heck, if you think on it for a while, you yourself are guilty of it at some point or another. We're not all just victims. We're offenders as well.

Anonymous said...

theres always tons of bullying going on everywhere ...especially in high school. whether its making fun of what someone is wearing or how they act. High school is the worst because people are so insecure about themselves that they have to make fun of everyone around them to make themselves feel better. personally i think that is ridiculous. you shouldnt judge other people because you don't know how it's going to affect the person you're making fun of. you need to be nice to everyone and they'll be nice to you back.

angela demarco

Anonymous said...

I can tell you what it'slike to be bullied. You become so paranoid that you don't know who really is being nice to you and who's harrasing you. You can't listen to what's being taught in class because what was just said to you is eating away at your insides, you want to stay home and crawl under a rock. You yell at everyone even the people who care about you because it's the only way to get the pain out. When you are being bullied you get a good look at the kids areound you and theyre not doing anything. I could be on fire and they are not doing a thing. I think of the things I could have done if the bullying didn't hurt so much but I'm afraid to. I never did anything to these kids to deserve them treating me this way.

Anonymous said...

On a day to day basis, I see a lot of bullying. A lot of times, I see people getting made fun of right in front of their own faces. Also, i hear a lot of people getting behind their backs, being talked about and being made fun of without them even knowing that it is happening to them.
-Charlie Switzer

Anonymous said...

The biggest bullying I see in Norton High is usually having to do with girls. Girls are the worst bullies I think. Almost every girl has talked behind someone else back. Girls are a lot different when it comes to bullying than guys, guys will just say it to eachother while girls will just keep going with it and not confront the person. Its so easy to stop this type of bullying because all you need to do is not talk about someone else, if you dont like them.. dont talk about them.
-Jackie Biagi

Anonymous said...

Everyone has been a victim of bullying, including me. I’m not ashamed of myself or what I have become. Growing up I wasn’t the best looking girl, I wasn’t popular, and I was just… me. I had friends but then suddenly most dropped me because; I didn’t “fit the look.” Or I suppose that’s why. It really had an impact on my life. I remember who was bullying me, and what they said to me to this day. They might have thought I would forget, but you know who you are. And you never apologized. Because of it I will admit I have low self confidence, and I’m afraid of meeting new people. It lasted for years and some people still to this day remind me of what I looked like. The sad part, throughout high school I did the bullying to a few people, but realized it was wrong. I’m a senior now and I respect everyone even the people that have put me through hell in middle and elementary school. Everyone deserves a second chance, but I do wish that I could go back and look to see what I did so wrong to deserve this.



Wellness Class period E

kerrin said...

Bullying happens everywhere. People bully others without even realizing it. I see bullying amongst groups of friends all the time. One friend may think it is a joke, but to the person being bullied it isn't one and it's hurtful. If more of an effort is put into stopping bullying at a younger age, that will make a difference. Most bullies start bullying at young ages.

Anonymous said...

I think girls are the worst bullies in the school. They get mad so easily and just one first impression can cause a girl to hate you. Girls just talk about people behind their backs because they have nothing better to do. If someone doesn't like someone they shouldn't talk about them or waste their time being a bully to them because it will only make things worse.
-Val Hall

Oogie292 said...

I don't consider myself to be a bully but I love to make fun of people. The majority of the time it is just with friends but sometimes it is directed at someone I am not friends with. I would never say it to their face because that would be mean and my intentions aren't to ruin anyone's life. Just to humour my own. Most of the bullyijng I see comes from students not being able to understand other people's differences. I also think that some bullying can be good and some people grow because of it. I am not advocating bullying but I guess I try to see the lighter side of things. -Alex Clegg

Anonymous said...

Wow there are alot of brave kids speaking out in this class. As I'm reading the comments I am wondering what, if anything, parents, teachers, adults could do. For the kids who openly admitted they bullied if they think of the first time it happened- would an adult interferring changed it or is it just peer pressure to fit in? I know there have been alot of "bully programs" introduced in the school- what worked in these programs and what didn't?
Kim Ryan

Anonymous said...

A lot of these posts are saying girls are probably one of the worst bullies. It's easy for us to SAY we can, but it's a lot harder to do so. Any type of bullying is bad, doesn't matter if it's coming from a boy, girl, adult or child. The most important thing to remember is that eventually things will get better. I've definetley been really judgemental and at one point or another i was being a "bully". It's easy to own up to being a bully, for others it's not. You never know how the other person is feeling until you've walked in there shoes. Recently Mr.Vitelli has helped me and a few other girls in my gym class get over some stupid drama. With him helping us, it proves to me bullying doesnt always have to happen, talk it out or have someone help you talk about it.

Happy in Period D Wellness :)

Anonymous said...

I think girls aren't as bad as boys in terms of bullying. Girls do more of a emotional type of bullying that some students can get over, but boys actually do physical bullying to each other. I've seen fights, people pushing each other, etc. and it does make you feel bad. Most people wouldn't help a person being bullied because they're that they'll get bullied in return. More people need to step up against bullying.

-Josh W. A block

Kevin Fisher said...

how many fist fights have there REALLY been at NHS? Take a look at other schools... Our biggest problem isn't fist fighting. I don't think fist fighting is the root cause of the problem. People are made fun of every day, talked about, and ridiculed each and every day. The emotional/verbal bullying is the worst.

Anonymous said...

At least once in your life, you were a bully and/or been bullied. It happens everywhere and sadly too often. I think girls and boys are equal in being bullies but there are just different levels of cruelty from the two. Boys can be more physical when bullying as to girls bullying mentally. We sometimes dont take bullying seriously although it is a seious issue. We really need to try our best to stop and think before we do or say things to others.

- molly m.

Nicolettes said...

I definitely don't think girls are the worst bullies in school. Yeah, if one girl causes a problem with the other, everyone will know about it because girls gossip. But boys are just as bad, I think. Boys do it less obviously, but still get to the victims. For example, in sports teams the freshmen get pushed around a lot and made fun of. Bullying definitely comes from both boys and girls at every age, and it needs to stop.

Anonymous said...

I wanted to share something with Alex, you need to think that your "passing comment" in fun could also be the 42nd comment the person has heard within the last 5 minutes. I want to give you the perspective of the bullied child's mother. If I ever did what bullies do and get away with it I would be accused of child abuse as a parent. What bullies do is rob not only the child of education, self esteem, security and trust they affect the family. The person who wrote "you're paranoid all the time" is spot on. Trust is stripped completely because of the bully. Which means the other people who wrote and say "I'm no longer a bully and I've changed" means nothing to the kid you've bullied unless you try (and I say try because it will take alot of work)to earn the trust back from the child you have bullied. Until then it is just talk. As a mother I wonder if today will be the day my child hears the final comment where they can no longer bear it any longer. Add the "normal" thoughts of just being a teenager and these kids are walking a tighrope of emotions. I hear everything the bullies have done and say and until you know what it's like to be a parent you do not know the extent of the pain I have felt, and how helpless it is to do anything to prevent it. I have heard parents say they have been told not to let their children hang around with my child because he's "gay", the most hurtful rumor started by another student. I'd like to see each of you reading this do something for a kid you know has been bullied to raise their self esteem, not only for a day for a week a month and a lifetime, because that's how long they've endured it, that's how long it will take to fix it.

-mother of sickofthebulling

Anonymous said...

Girls are the hardest people to get along with. Guys are more accepting of others. Therefore, I agree with everyone saying girls are the worst bullies. We are crucial in judging others and our biggest defense is verbal attacks and "dirty looks". Nowadays, girls are getting more physical in girl fights. At my old school freshmen year, these 5 girls attacked one underclassmen during our break over a boy. They literally were punching, kicking, screaming, and grabbing. Girls are brutal and always will be.

Kayla Crugnale

Anonymous said...

bullying happens all over school every day. it might not be obvious or happen around you but it happens an there is no way to stop it. people are always gonna be bullys an put people down to make themselves feel better it just happens. we can try an solve one problem at a time but teres gonna be those people who do not give it up. its a shame but thats the way it is. no matter how large or small its always going to be around. jason winsor

Anonymous said...

life is about being yourself
someone only you can be
someone only you can understand
someone that is unlike everyone else
someone who doesnt copy others to look the same
someone who is extremely unique
because you are you
be origina1 be creative

BE YOURSELF
jason winsor

Anonymous said...

life is about being yourself
someone only you can be
someone only you can understand
someone that is unlike everyone else
someone who doesnt copy others to look the same
someone who is extremely unique
because you are you
be origina1 be creative

BE YOURSELF
jason winsor

Anonymous said...

everyone is a bully when it comes down to it. everyone has been mean to someone, but it can change. take the high road, if you see someone getting bullied even in the most desrete way, help them out. dont make those little comments under your breath. even if you are "just kiddin'", dont make the ugly comment or annoying one. the littlest things tend to bother me personally. if someone doesnt like what you wear or feel theres something wrong with it, they can keep it to their selves. there is no need to put other people down to make yourself feel better. it really hurts, you might think its funny but they dont. ive been put down by people that i thought i could count on, and they dont even know that what they said hurt me.practice kindness, it means so much. ive seen bulling going on and done nothing about it, i regret those times. i know that next time i see it i WILL do something to help. no one deserves to feel belittled or brought down by anyone.

--nicole cuneo

Anonymous said...

I think that everyone is a bully in one way or another. Whether it's physically bullying someone or talking about them behind their back. We're all guilty of it. I don't think one form of bullying is worse than another though. The emotional bullying can be just as bad as the physical. You're still hurting the person. You're still taking advantage of someone that can't stick up for themselves. It happens everyday at every school around the world. A lot of times people just do it, because they're insecure and it makes them feel better about themselves. We have to realize though that the other person has feelings, too. We need to see how much it hurts the other person. We need to stop saying little comments about people, because somehow it'll probably get back to the person, and really hurt them. We all just need to learn to be kind to one another. Kindness goes a long way.

- Hannah C.
D period, Wellness

Anonymous said...

Fortunately, physical bullying does not happen a whole often at NHS. I can not recall the last time I saw someone push or hit someone for the sake of bullying them. The mental/emotional bullying is present though. For instance, joking about someones weight in the locker room while they are changing.

I do not want to appear pessimistic but I do not believe that bullying can ever be killed entirely. Definetly decreased, but not completley destroyed. Short of making everyone look alike by plastic surgery or indoctirnating everyone to think the same way, people will always be uniquely different. People will always select one difference to be better than another. This will create insecurities and bullying will sadly continue.

Paul Southworth D Block

Anonymous said...

I think that everyone atleast once in their lives has ether been bullied or was the bully. Sometimes when you think that your just joking around with someone, their feelings could really be getting hurt. I know that after we had this conversation in class I have thought about the things I say to people (even my friends) before I say them, because you can never know how someone is going to take what your saying. I think people should deffinetly do that aswell, just because someone doesnt comeout and say it, their feelings could be getting hurt.

-Alex Grimes

Anonymous said...

I think bullying is something that has been in and out of schools for a long time and its a very big problem expecially in schools. Bullying can be from the slightest look you give someone to the full out fist fight. Bullying i think is done by someone who is insecure about themselves or someone who has a bad backround or life out of school. I also think I know why they bully, and its because they want power. Bullys want to feel powerful and better than the victim of bullying because maybe they have been bullied before by a family member or somneone older and "better' than you so you pick on your little brother. I have seen bullying and have been a part of it, for example my older brother used to bully me so to make me feel better i bullied my little brother and he bullied my little litlle brother and he just cried and ran to mom because i have no more brothers. But i have realized thats not ok to do that because I knew how it felt and it didnt feel good so why would i make my brother feel that way and i have stopped bullying my brothers and so has my older brother at least he kinda matured

-luke lenhart

Anonymous said...

Personally, I don't see a lot of obvious bullying in our school. What I do hear is a lot of comments that can be hurtful if taken a certain way. Sometimes, myself included, people say things without thinking of who it may hurt.
-audra s.

colleenoneil said...

i Agree with amanda, i also think girls are the worst bullies within our school. Honestly, i may have displayed bully's actions, amoungst my friends or people im close because i did not realize i was hurtting them. Now i think i will be more aware of what i say and do and how someone could take it the wrong. -colleen oneil

Joe W said...

On a day to day basis is see many different types of bullying. Some forms of it are more subtle than others. Most of the bullying that I see is verbal. Some people may not notice it but it really is bullying. Most of the time they're joking around but you never know how the person on the other end really feels about it.


-Joey Wilkes

bethany h. said...

girls in my book are the meanest of all bullies. i know what its like to be picked on and be tourtured and made fun of and everything. it does really hurt. and there are people out there that are picked on but at the same time that person picks on other people as well. 2 wrongs dont make a right. like gitls all they do is sit there and talk crap about one an another. girls never let things go. highschool is where all the drama starts. and the funny thing is, is that there is no reason for girls to be this horrible to one another. like girls will be like " you stole my boyfriend". come on grow up like get over it theres no need to talk crap about that person. and like its immature and stupid. like every girl has said something about one another and had drama in their life. i think everyoneshould just grow up snd not talk about anyone sand just keep their noses out of peoples bussiness. it would save alot of time and alot of drama.

Anonymous said...

I do agree that girls can be "pretty bad" bullies. But,once you think about it, there is no way to categorize how "bad" a bully is; you either are a bully or you aren't. There is no "not so bad" or "nice" bully. Every single person has been a bully or has been bullied. Whether its physically, emotionally or verbally, it is still bullying. In our society today, I think the most common bullying is verbal. Most comments are taken as a joke when they are really the truth. Also,(more commonly with girls,) there is a lot of gossiping. Talking behind peoples back is bullying. I've done it, and I know every girl has said something they shouldn't have too. Not everyone is going to like everything about everybody and thats completely expected. I know gossiping will never be overcome but the least everyone could do is try to think before they speak to minimize the amount of drama. I realized moreso after this class that I should try to think more before I say things. Like Rachel Scott said: "I have this theory that if one person can go out of their way to show compassion then it will start a chain reation of the same."


-Brianna Valeri
Class: D

Anonymous said...

Everyone has been a bully at some point in their life. Everyone talks about people behind their back and some people are more obvious with their bullying. Some people even make fun of people right to their face. At Norton, I don't see much of this. You also don't see much physical bullying at Norton. Bullying is definitely still present in Norton, but I think it's much less than at other schools.

Jaron Cote
D Block

Anonymous said...

in the locker room there is a lot a of name calling and evan some times punching but not fighting its just fun to some people but other people its not and i know people that dont like it and they think of it as bullying
MT

Sean Sullivan said...

Bullying is everywhere; wether its at school, at home, or the work place. It happens everywhere and its verry hard to stop. a lot of little thing that we may not think is bullying actually are. makeing little comments to people, giving a dirty look, useing a common name that a person doesn't like, and laughing at someone (yes i know laughing at someone for most reasons it sounds like a joke but its not its still bullying) we all do it its not right but we still do it. and i know its hard to change and were told not to but if your a bully then you need to change it will benefit you and everyone around you

Anonymous said...

In school you can walk down the halls and not see any bullying, which is because physical bullying is not common at our school. But if you were to listen you could probably hear bullying. What i normally hear is a lot of comments that can be hurtful if someone was to take it the wrong way, or take it personally. For the most part comments are made to joke around but they can be perceived differently by others who take offense. Everyone is a bully or has been one. I know i have said some things joking around that could have been taking the wrong way, but luckily have not been. I think you can help to put a stop to bullying but you can never truly eliminate it.
- Victoria Carlson D wellness

Anonymous said...

I think that everyone in some way is a bully. People will usually think that a bully is some one who picks on some one else who is weak and can not defend themselves, howvever, it is even considered bullying to make fun of someone because of something they said or did. At NHS, most of the bullying is verbal. Even though people are making jokes about their friends, it can still hurt them even though that was not their friend's intention. It seems like now a lot of people take things said to or about them more seriously than they should and they make a big deal over it. Even though it might not seem like a big deal at the time something is said that was hurtful, it can still become a problem later and bullying is something that should be stopped.

-Vanessa F.
Wellness D

Anonymous said...

i agree, girls are the meanest bullies. i have had personal experience. i grew up different than most kids i didnt want to blend in and look like everyone else and have the latest styles whatever. i had my own group of friends who liked to stick out from everyone else. i got picked on and called names and put into categories like being and 'emo' or 'scene' kid. in 7th grade i was even called goth because i liked black. i didnt have many friends but they stuck by my side and i am still friends with them today. i still am being called names and being labeled by the way my hair looks or the way i dress. how do these people bullying me know that im not the kid who will snap? maybe some day i will. i have in the past...
-Amanda A.
Wellness F

Tamika Mariah said...

I think we ourself are our own worst bullies. I feel this way because we all have been mean to some one or made someone feel less important. weather we ment it or not some people have been affected by the things we do and say. On the other hand, i think this is a good lesson for ourselves because a majority of us had things done and said to us and we done it to other people. we can relate because we know how it feels when some one has been bullied.

Tamika. Q

Anonymous said...

Everyone is a bully whether they want to admit it or not. Girls definately are some of the worst bullies. They aren't as up front with their problems as guys are and just talk with their friends about it and thats how rumors and fights get started. Bullying is wrong but everyone does it. It definately needs to stop but it will take a lot of effort.

-Kirsten D.
F Block

Anonymous said...

Bullies are in every school, I really don't think that any school can be "bully free." I also think that sometimes bullying is unintentional and people might not realize the damage that they are doing to someone, until it all comes out. There are definatly bullying in our school, and there are definaly bullies.
-Mike K

Anonymous said...

I personally have been victim to bullying. Last year, after a fallout with friends, I feared going to school because I thought that I would get made fun of or hurt. Though I didn't think of it as bullying before, I definitely think it is now.

I totally agree that girls are the worst bullies. I'm a total bully. I'm not proud of it, but I do shoot dirty looks if people bother me. I don't physically attack them, but sometimes I don't care if I hurt their feelings.

Geez, I sound mean.

- Amanda Lizio, Wellness F

Anonymous said...

Mostly the bullying that goes on is either teasing people or talking behind their back to other people. I admit i've done this before but i don't think anyone can say they haven't. Its a sad thing that people can't stop bullying.
-Derek Schwartz-

Ali H Comic Spirit said...

I don't hang around with people that get bullied, nor do i bully people. My friends and I are more of the group that is always having fun and doesn't have any drama. Which is definitely a good thing! And, honestly, I wouldn't even know where bullying would go on in the school. Maybe just verbally picking on someone in class, but other than that i wouldn't know.

Liz O said...

I can definitely agree with girls being the worst bullies. It's 100% true. Yeah, guys will get into physical fights, but then you see them a week later and their buddies. Girls on the other hand, grudges can last anywhere from a few weeks, to a few years! We will argue about anything; it will go anywhere from a guy to "omg you bought the same shirt as me!" Now, I'm not that bad, but I have seen it happen. I will admit to talking behind someone's back or giving dirty looks, but then again, who can honestly say they haven't?

-liz o'sullivan
wellness-A

Anonymous said...

I truly believe bulling does not just come from specific types of people. Everyone at one point in their life bully's a person whether they realize it or not. Most people don't realize what they say can hurt someone's feelings, or make them feel bad about their self’s. People do not realize what bullying truly is still even though they are in high school. Saying mean things about a person when they are not present is still considered bullying; they do not have to be present for bullying to occur. I think that if people are more careful with what they say bullying could slowly decrease.
-Ashley Domaldo

Anonymous said...

Although I agree that girls are a huge factor to bullying, I feel that guys are just as responsible, and they should not be overlooked. We are well aware that girls bully due to the drama no one can seem to escape, but it is harder to see a victim of male bullying because the guys themselves want to keep up their tough images and do not want to appear "weak" or "uncool". The truth is though, you are weak if you let the problem continue and don't do anything about it. It takes a strong, brave individual to stand up to a bully or even seek some help. I know it can be really hard and may seem impossible sometimes, but just talking to a friend or someone you can trust and depend on can trigger the needed end to bullying.

-shaylee wellness F

Anonymous said...

I think that bulling happens everywhere and everyone is a bully at some point. Most people dont realize what they are saying and not trying to be mean but sometimes it can come off the wrong way to certain people.

Brian Fox
D wellness

Colleen S said...

I think that in some cases girls can be worse bullies than boys but everyone at one point or another is a bully. Most of the time girls bully other girls because of boys and boys do the same about girls or other drama, but either way it is not right to bully anybody. I wish I could say that i've never bullied someone but that would be a lie. Some people bully others in school or out of school but it happens everywhere everyday. I feel like the most common reasons for bullying is how somebody acts or what they wear, or what somebody does to someone else behind their back (everyones done it). Even though I have been a bully at some point I have learned that being a bully gets you no where and just makes you look like a mean person. Its not a right thing to do, and I feel if everyone realized this a lot of things could change.

--Colleen Sanphy

Anonymous said...

one of my best friends in the whoollleee widdeee wooorrllldd, was bullied alot when he was younger, n' it still really bothers him, n' he has told me how much it has afected him n' shaped him as a person to pretty much hate people, n' be afraid of how they hurt you. n' that sucks cause he is the s**t. n' if you don't like him, then it" you frign' loss cause he is amazing n' you won't be able to experience his awsomosity that spews out of him constently. sucks for you.


- Allison Young

Anonymous said...

bullies are not good. in our school there are bullies who enjoy making others peoples lives worse. in our school there is not as much pyshical bullying but name calling. some people take it more seriuosly thatn others


John Eckart

Dean Kennedy said...

Most of the bullying in our school isn't done to the person. Everything is said behind a persons back and then gets back to them. Like other people have said, I agree that most of this is done by girls, but I see plenty of guys that make fun of everyone else under their breath- they just kind of sit there and giggle and snicker about it. Like how old must they be at heart to feel the need to do that, seriously.

Anonymous said...

Allison,
I'm old-I need vowels :) but what you wrote about your friend was really great. You hit it right on the head when you said it sucks for us not to know him. Most kids who are bullied are the greatest kids if you get to know them, and bullying keeps them in the shadows. Friends like you are a lifeline for them. Sometimes one person believing in them makes all the difference. Keep believing :)
Kim R.

andrewpotter@nhsss.blogspot.com said...

I agree with Amanda and priya. everyday you can walk past one group of girls (or guys) and hear them talking trash about another group. Harmless or not, things like this are not acceptable. People should be allowed to live their own lives without criticism from other people.

Sarah N said...

Everybody at one point or another is guilty of bullying, and
I can't say i'm innocent. I have issues with people I don't even know, girls can't let things go and thats where alot of problems come from. Grudges that I hold against some happened months ago. I think that if any bullying regarding grudges it going to be stopped people need to be able find someone that they can open up to without hearing it from someone else the next day.

Anonymous said...

Bullying is one of the most common things within a school environment. Through the years, bullying has decreased, but it hasn't vanished completely. Bullying can be physical an emotional; even talking behind someone's back can be considered bullying. No one is innocent when it comes to this topic. At least one point in everyone's life, they have bullied someone else and vice versa. Bullying is just a part of life, sad, but true. I think that once a person enters high school, they should gain a level of maturity to not bully people. They just need to accept the fact that everyone is different. In life, you're not always going to like all the people you meet, but that doesn't mean you have to say hurtful things or talk behind their backs. It's just immature, and people need to grow up.

Kristy C.
Class D

Anonymous said...

There are certain people that are either younger or that are outcasts that are always being bullied because they are different. No one says anything about this and no one will ever stop either. Everyone has been a bully at one point or another in their lifetime, I think it's human nature to try to appear as a stronger person.

-Aleksandra Donato

Anonymous said...

Everyone has bullied at one point or another. Some, in a 'joking' manner, others in a very malicious manner. Some bully with words, some bully with the absence of words, and others physically bully. All types of bullying are unnecessary and hurtful. I agree that girls are many times the culprits but guys are too often and too easily seen 'casually' bullying one another. I have experienced bullying and it is not fun, BUT I did learn at a young age how to deal with certain types of people and the mean things they do and say. Although perhaps not always the best tactic during physical bullying, ignorance and cluelessness do tend to work best when dealing with a female version of bullying. To me, it seems so ridiculous. Most cases of bullying are pointless and totally unecessary. Bullying kind of just makes me cringe and scratch my head. I don't understand the point, I don't understand the self assurance, I don't understand the motives. Bullies need to chill. Who CARES if someone is different from you? Really, I mean who cares as long as they're not hurting you or anyone else.Get over it and move on. There are more important things in life.

-Caroline A block F

Anonymous said...

Bullying is something is going to happen anywhere you are. It is pretty much inevitable. There are different forms of bullying too; some are more severe and noticeable than others. I think that at one point or another in our lives, we have all been bullies. We may not think much of it, but we have all done or said something that could have hurt someone else’s feelings. Most people have probably been bullied too. That might make them how they are today. We can try all we want to prevent bully from occurring, but it is probably no use. I think that there is always going to be someone who is a bully, and it could be you. That is why I think bullying is inevitable.
Miranda donato
Class: D

Anonymous said...

Everyone is a bully and everyone is bullied, and I feel that there is no simple task to change this fact. Bullies are everywhere; in school (obviously), at work, between staff, and even in families. Everyone is hypocrites when it comes to bullying becuase although they hate feeling bad about themselves, they continue to do it. I am not saying every single person is awful, but I'm sure it can be proven that everyone has talked about someone in a negative way at least once in their lifetime. Bullying is a horrible aspect of life and we are still searching for a way to stop it. As of right now, I think it would require a rediculous amount of effort to even stop half of the bullying that happens on a day to day basis.


-Jamie Hall

Anonymous said...

Gossip is the biggest bully i see on a regular basis. People are always talking about others instead of going straight up to the person and letting them know what your problem is with them. The second problem i see is when people walk by and just call you a name or two and then keep walking or when they walk into but don't say sorry. The way people act at home is most of the reason but it will take a team effort to try and help people through it and maybe they will give up on the whole bullying thing.IF U GOT A ISSUE WITH SOMEONE. JUST ACT LIKE THERE NOT THERE.and just go on with the day.

-Cory Stott

Anonymous said...

i feel that every person in the world has bullied someone in their lives at one point and as much as i would like to say i never bully people i cant. but i also know that i try hard to be a nice person to everyone no matter what and ive definitely noticed a difference. it would be a mirical if we as norton high school students could stop bullying but if we all do our part it wont be as obvious as it is now - brian white

Kim Birkett said...

I don't think bullying is a black-and-white topic, and I don't think it can be determined whether girls are bigger bullies than boys. Yes, girls talk behind others' backs, but guys do the same in a more violent, physical way. Girls who have been bullied by other girls are going to say girls are the worst bullies. Girls who have been bullied by men are going to say men are the worst bullies. The truth is, everyone has been bullied in the past, and their opinions towards harrassment and bullying depends on their personal experiences.

I agree with others that bullying is going to take a lot of effort and dedication to eliminate. I believe; however, that NHS is coming up with great ideas that will definitely clear the atmosphere of teasing, fighting, etc. The anti-bullying kick-off day that LC is sponsoring will be eye-opening; I want to spread bullying awareness.

I also think people don't even realize how much Rachel's Challenge will impact their life. Words cannot describe how excited I am for the program to come to Norton. It is an amazing way to change the environment of NHS.

Molli B said...

I think girls are the worst bullies of all. It usually starts because of boy. Pushing, call names, making fun of, giving dirty looks or even talking about someone behind their backs are all forms of bullying. However guys are bullies too. They can be really bad when it comes to teasing. People may not realize when they are doing, but everyone has been bullied in some way of another. Everyone has also bullied in one way or another. One of the biggest reasons it happens is because of the way someone looks, dresses or acts. If everyone works together I think it could change.

Anonymous said...

Every one has bullied someone atleast once in there life. I see bulling in school almost every day. It is mostly name calling, or talking trash, but on occasion i see physical bullying.

-steve finney

Anonymous said...

Every where you go in the school you can see bullying. There are often roumors of guys who are planning to fight, or are fighting. Girls in the school usualy fight over guys and I guess it gets ugly. I dont realy know im not a girl. In lunch you will usualy hear people making fun of kids sitting at other tables. Some times its nothing big, but other times people are attacking the victims "character", or their personality. Or mabey some kids just dont get along so they exchange dirty looks, or make fun of each other when ever they get the chance.

-Drew Erickson

Anonymous said...

What I cant understand is why they always seem to think that they've done nothing wrong. I was bulied throughout middle school and grammar school. I know how it feels. Ohh, I do, I do. Last year an accuaintance of mine asked me a question about one of my friends. She asked me why my friend seemed to hate her and her friends. Before I could answer she said, "Hey I dont care if we were like mean to him or something, you know, back in the JCS, he should just grow up and get over it." I am for my part surprised that even her gender stopped me from laying hands upon her. Such unmidigated and ignorant selfishness. If she was correct in her analysis of my friend feelings, forget apologies, she owes him her life. If you have ever inflicted the sort of lasting pain, that she described with such disinterest, on anyone, you deserve a life filled with unending tortue, failure and despair. Oh and as far as ending the bullying that takes place in NHS, lets all try to be a little more mature. Remember, picking on others is not the sign of a superiority complex, it is the sign of an inferiority complex.

cassie iagatta said...

Everyone is guilty of bullying someone at sometime in their life, myself included. i dont think that girls are worse bullies than boys, but that they just bully in a different way. girls are more likely to gang up on someone with their friends and spread rumors behind their backs. guys often tease eachother, or can even violently bully other kids. I don't think that kids today realize how much bullying affects the victims. i think that if everyone understood the effects better, then people would be less likely to be bullies.

Anonymous said...

I constantly see several forms of bullying on a daily basis. It used to be mainly in school, but now I see it mostly on the internet. The old form of cyber bullying was AIM, but now that that's old news, Facebook has opened new doors for people to say what ever they'd please. Facebook statuses allow people to make rude, degrading comments about each other with out specifying who the person is. Most of the time, the person who the status is about is aware it is about them, and then they will go and retaliate with a status of their own. I personally think this form of bullying is ridiculous and cowardly. If you have a problem with someone, I think you should settle your differences like mature young adults and talk it out in person.
-JJ Leahy

Anonymous said...

I believe that teenage girls are the biggest bullies in the school. I hear many girls trash talking eachother in the hallways. Also some bulling happens between freshmen and seniors, but its ok because freshmen deserve it. just kidding. The type of bulling that bothers me the most is when people pick on the kids that are different, its just not fair.

-Johnny Willis

Anonymous said...

i feel that every person in the world has bullied someone in their lives at one point or another, and as much as i would like to say ive never bullied i cant. i cant really recall any of the incidents that i have bullied someone but ik for a fact i have either talked about someone behind their back or any of the other many forms of bullying, but i also know that i try hard to be a nice person to everyone no matter what and ive definitely noticed a difference. i just hope more people can change their ways.


christian breau forgot name on first one

derek said...

By far the bullying i see the most on a daily basis is pretty much what alot of people have agreed on this assignment, people giving looks and talking about one another and things like that. Everyone has done it, some more than others, even if you rarely do it.

Anonymous said...

I have seen alot of bullying around our school. The diffrence is its not out right bullying. The type i see is many people that are friends being picked on and made-fun of although its by their friends. Many see it as a joke but sometimes it hurts the person more than you think.
Chris Kelly

Brandon Rose said...

Everyday i see people that make fun of people and say all kinds of bad things about them. Also, even some people that physically hurt others all the time and try to make them not feel good about themselves. Bulling goes on constantly and most people don't realize it that something their saying is offensive to another person.

Anonymous said...

Bullying, in my opinion will never stop. No matter where you go other people will bully you and you will bully them, nomatter what age you are. But there are definitly ways to lower bullying. I personally feel that simply being nice to someone you like or don't like will change a lot. Once you start a fight with someone it will just continue to get larger and larger. Eventually it will lead to physical harm and sometimes farther.

-Brett

k.schuko said...

The most frequent types of bullying that I usually see are: sexual harassing/comments, sarcasm or joking around-but when its taken too far, death stares, or just being rude and crossing the line. Sometimes I even hear name calling. Most of the forms of bullying at Norton High seem to be emotional- stuff that gets into your head... I have not (personally) witnessed any type of physical bullying.

Anonymous said...

Bullying, in my opinion will never stop. No matter where you go it is around you. Doesn't matter if your 4 or if your 70, its everywhere. But there are definitly ways to stop bullying. The most important way is to just treat others the way you would like to be treated. If you are nice to the people that you like or don't like it will help. If you start a fight or argument with someone then it can only get worse. You will never win when you start a fight, it will most likely always backfire on you.

-brett

Anonymous said...

There is a lot of bullying that occurs everyday. I hear a lot of name calling everyday. Most of the time it is just joking around but it can still hurt people's feelings. I also always hear people talking about other people behind their backs. Bullying is a serious issue and there is a lot of it at the high school.

-Austin Tocci

Brendan C said...

I would deffinetely say bullying is a big part of today's school day. It is almost invisble and not looked at when it is happening as bullying and if the instance were to be pointed out by someone else the bully in this case would probably deny it as an act of bullying. Our society has change so much that the instances that potentially hurt another person have became social acceptable by teenagers, groups, and even adults.

Anonymous said...

Bullying occurs so frequently throughout an average school day that most acts of bullying are often ignored. The most common form of bullying that I witness the most is girls, or boys, talking about people behind their backs. Pretty much everyone is guilty of doing this but no one thinks of it as bullying because they are so used to doing it.
Andrea Giglio
Wellness E

Taylor F said...

Believe it or not, i think our own friends and family are the worst offenders of bullying, at least on an individual level. These people know us the most; they know our every tick, our every peeve and know exactly how to push our buttons. It is easy to see how just playful teasing can eventually cross the line. Because we are all comfortable around eachother, a small snide comment may seem harmless, but hearing certain notions again and again can bring down a person's esteem on an everyday basis.

tori bravetti said...

I think girls are the biggest bullies in school. They can be so judgemental. Everyone has talked about someone behind their back,made fun of someone by what they wear or who their friends are, and have given people dirty looks. I think it should change by people just accepting everyones different and by people stoping being so judgemental and they should have their own opinions rather than what everyone else thinks.
-tori bravetti

Pat said...

Bullying is one of those sad parts in growing up that people have to face. Most of the bullying in school is done in a verbal way. something that all your friends think is funny might be hurtful to others. Mostly things like name calling or something stupid they did in the past.

PAT TRAVERSE

Anonymous said...

I have seen many forms of bullying including physical and emotional.Many times i have seen it,been a victim of it,and even been a bully myself.Without knowing it you can be bullying someone.Such as for instance ive without even thinking about it have called people names and just pushed them.Now i know even though i viewed it as playin around maybe that person didnt and i couldve hurt thier feelings.The bullying that I see most taking place is within groups of friends or even family.Everybody is sitting with each other and theres always that one person out of the group that is the target of being everyone elses joke.Ive been a victim of bullying myself.Even by my own "friends" it was one of the worst feelings.So now as i think about my past i try to keep it from being part of someone elses life.It happens almost everyday so if someone steps up not only for yourself,but for others it will slowly go away.

-melanie costa

Alyssa Graham said...

I don't agree that girls are the worst bullies. I've seen both genders be just as cruel and terrible to others. I think it would be more accurate to say that at one point in their life every one has done something which could be considered bullying.

Peter B. said...

To tell you the truth i really dont see any serious bullying, but i am guilty of bullying because i make fun of people alot. But i do it so frequently and expect the person to joke around and say something back that i really dont no if the other person takes it seriously and get there feelings hurt.

Anonymous said...

the types of bullying seen at school is all types. people are left out and made fun of in various ways. this should be stopped at any means but should start with stricter rules and punishments.

Anonymous said...

bullying happens every day in all schools. there r the people who make fun of other people and the people that physically bully people. honestly i think the bullys are the people who think they r tougher and better than everyone else but in reality they are not. and also parents can make a difference. if the parents know he is bullying and dont do anything about it they keep doing it
nick roe

Anonymous said...

i see all types of bullying at school and im not going to lie i can be a bully but so can everyone else. it should be stopped and there should be greater punishments to the people who continue to do it.im tired of people talking behind another persons back.
Nick Lyons

Anonymous said...

bullying happens every day and it is uite obvious. the kind that stands out the most is that in the form of jokes. another way that someone can be bullied is if something said about them gets back to them through other people.

--Kevin Rogers--

BradMck said...

After our class discussion, I believe I could be considered a bully due to my sometimes harsh sarcastic comments.

Anonymous said...

bully is something that schools do not need because it physical and can mentaly can harm a kid. on the football team there is not bullying but everbody makes fun of eachopther.
-nyles

Anonymous said...

I agree that girls are the worst type of bullies. It happens everyday to all types of people though. When people bully it makes them feel more powerful than everyone else. You can hear and see bullying but some people sit by and watch it and do not say anything to stop it or some people join in. By someone saying something to stop it, it does make a difference to the victim because they know that someone else knows that it is wrong. Also causes the bully to distract the bullying and makes it real.
-Stefanie Weiner

Deidre G said...

I think that both girls and boys are bullies and there both just as bad. Boys try to be more playful about it and try to act like they don't care, even when it really does bother them. And girls can get pritty nasty and say things just to spite others, and then others will say things back and it's an endless chain. I honestly don't think it will ever stop. It's become part of life.

~Deidre Giguere

Anonymous said...

I personally agree with everybody's points, however i feel that the worst bullying comes in the form of athletic or age-based hazing. To be honest the seniors are the worst bullies in the school by far. I see it everyday before practice in the locker room and probably 75% of the time i participate in the bullying. Anything from harsh words, actions, or threats, they are all frequent reoccurring problems in everyday high school life. Also, we as seniors have a tendency to pick on and demean the underclassmen. I, in no right, believe that it is right to bully and have taken steps to limit my participation. The golden rule is the most important rule of life; treat others the way you would like to be treated.

Chris DeSousa

Anonymous said...

I wanted to tell you (especially Taylor) what a chain reaction you are causing in the community. A couple weeks ago I was with a group of my friends and I was telling them about this blog and how hard it must be to change a culture. The question came up by one of the parents who asked, "I wonder what part adults play in all of this." We had teachers, coaches and parents all discussing that question. ALL OF US have vowed to re think how our responses affect the children that come into our lives. I can tell you it is not easy and some days when the stress is crazy it really shows how adults can impact a child's world. We are learning in standing back and re-evaluating we can make a difference in a child's life. Continue to make a difference in your own :)
Kim Ryan

nortonwellness said...

Kim,

Thanks for your thoughts. We are trying to be agents of change here at NHS and it looks like it's starting to spread. I would like to invite you to the community presentation of Rachel's Challenge which will be at NHS on December 1st. Craig Scott will truly inspire you. Regards, Mike Vitelli

Anonymous said...

Thanks so much for the invite Mr. Vitelli, I will try my best to be there (unless the flu decides to visit :)
Kim Ryan

Anonymous said...

In the beginning of a change, the patriot is a scarce man, and brave, and hated and scorned. When his cause succeeds, the timid join him, for then it costs nothing to be a patriot. ~Mark Twain

Christiana Roberge said...

I can definitely say that I see at least one form of bullying every single day. Most of the time, it's in the form of small comments in the hallways or talking about someone behind his or her back. Not only have I been bullied, but I have also been the bully. I know what it feels like to get hurt by bullying and I also know what it feels like to hurt someone else. Most of the fights that occur in high school are based on pointless, insignificant things; but we are teenagers – we’re stubborn and we act on impulse rather than think things through. I think it's really important that the people who are involved in a certain situation try to see the situation from the other person's point of view. Open-mindedness is key; once everyone can get over their own ignorance, I think the bullying will decrease by a lot. Unfortunately, not everyone can be changed because not everyone is willing to change... but if the majority of people are willing to look past immaterial things and let things go rather than focus on revenge, I think high school, as well as the world, could be a much better place.


Christiana Roberge

Christiana Roberge said...

I can definitely say that I see at least one form of bullying every single day. Most of the time, it's in the form of small comments in the hallways or talking about someone behind his or her back. Not only have I been bullied, but I have also been the bully. I know what it feels like to get hurt by bullying and I also know what it feels like to hurt someone else. Most of the fights that occur in high school are based on pointless, insignificant things; but we are teenagers – we’re stubborn and we act on impulse rather than think things through. I think it's really important that the people who are involved in a certain situation try to see the situation from the other person's point of view. Open-mindedness is key; once everyone can get over their own ignorance, I think the bullying will decrease by a lot. Unfortunately, not everyone can be changed because not everyone is willing to change... but if the majority of people are willing to look past immaterial things and let things go rather than focus on revenge, I think high school, as well as the world, could be a much greater place.


Christiana Roberge

Anonymous said...

Chris,
I was just talking about this the other day- how hazing is bullying with a bow tie and how easily it is excepted. This person told me about an "initiation" by being hit with a belt. Considering that was my parents form of discipline when I was your age I cringed when I heard it. When parents do it, it's unacceptable when fellow students do it- it's okay?
Kim Ryan

Anonymous said...

There are different types of bullying. Verbal and physical cyber are the main ones. I have to say everyone has bullying someone in there life so far. Everyone is guilty of it whether they do it now or have done it in the past. I admit that i have been a bully to some younger kids and now i feel bad about it.

Hannah Eckman
(the post without the name on it is mine with the first wellness assignment)

Anonymous said...

Bully is just a general term that can mean a lot of things. Although getting shaken down in the hallway for your milk money is certainly not an everyday event, it still happens. But, whats funny is I see more bullying out of school rather than inside it. Bullying in the form of harrasment via text messaging and facebook is much more commen than what occurs at Norton Middle School. I believe that kids feel more secure sitting in their safe room from a distance as opposed to confronting the situation face to face. this very often escalates the situation, leading to further bullying and more trouble.

-Chris Bukowski
Wellness A Block

Justin B said...

Everyone bullies. Its something we have to live with. To a certain degree i believe bullying is natural and not a harm. Friends joking,or people making drama is completely natural. The problem comes with our generation. Bullying has stopped being an oddity and started being a commodity. Everyone now bullies, and its no longer boys taking out anger, or friends getting out a healthy laugh; instead it is now entertainment. The people who suffer real, true bullying should not have to go through such torment, none the less on a daily basis.
-Justin baird